I have a friend who always used to say, “Why does everything bad happen to me?”
It was SO tiresome.
I finally told her that she needed to rearrange the way she was looking at things. First, bad things happen to everyone sometimes. Sorry, but it’s the human experience.
But second, and most importantly, we can control what happens by controlling what we think about.
As Gandhi said, and I’m paraphrasing:
Thoughts become words
Words become actions
Actions become habits
Success comes from the steady application of the right habits. So, if you want to succeed, you have to trace that process back to your thoughts.
We can’t control everything that flits across our brains. But we absolutely can decide whether to let negative thoughts disappear – or to hold, nurture and repeat them into self-defeating negativity.
So, instead of deliberately thinking, “I’m overweight and unattractive and can’t ever finish anything,” try to focus on more helpful thoughts like, “I’m a loveable, caring person who’s trying to improve myself every day.”
Which thought will lead to the actions and habits and LIFE that you want?
It shouldn’t take Gandhi to find the answer. You know it in your heart. Now tell your head.